Chet, you got it pretty much right.
JT6M was originally conceived to be a
meteor-scatter mode optimized for 6 meters -- and indeed it does work very
well when meteor pings are longer in duration (as they typically are on 6
meters when compared to 2 meters and above). However, the fact remains that
meteor pings can be extremely short (100 ms or so) even on 6 meters. Pings
this short are oftentimes too short to provide time enough for a full
instance of the longest MS messages (both calls, or worst-case, both
calls plus reports). The tradeoff between the two modes is that FSK441 is
less sensitive than JT6M because of its higher bandwidth requirements, but
it requires much less time to send a complete message. JT6M is more
sensitive, bit is often too slow for very short duration meteor pings.
People use both FSK441 and JT6M on 6 meters,
depending on how the variables ine up. On 2 meters and above, meteor pings
are almost always very short, and JT6M is little used.
Yes, you can tell by ear which mode is being
used. Switching modes unilaterally in the middle of a QSO, however, can lead
to confusion, especially if operating in "random" mode (i.e., not
coordinated on PJ) . If operating using PJ, it's a better idea to announce
to the other station that you are switching modes and start the QSO attempt
over from scratch. This is typically the case anyway, because if you're
making progress with the Q using one mode, the practice is usually to let
that mode play out to completion.
Bill W5WVO